As a single mom, my life was filled with both challenges and joys while raising my two daughters. During those busy years, I also managed a business, balancing work and family. In this blog, I’ll share my experiences and lessons learned along the way, hoping to inspire other moms facing similar journeys. Join me as I reflect on the ups and downs of my life as a single mom.
Coping with a New Life
When my daughters were just 6 and 7 years old, their father and I made the tough choice to separate. This time was especially hard for my younger daughter, who often cried and wished for our family to come back together. It was an emotional rollercoaster for all of us, particularly for a young child trying to understand what was happening.
Explaining separation to such young kids was a big challenge, especially as a single mom. I worked hard to reassure both of my daughters that, despite the changes, my love for them would never change.
I made it a priority to let them know that I would always be there for them, ready to support and care for them through every twist and turn. My main goal was to ensure they felt loved, safe, and understood during this challenging time in our family.
Special Memories with My Daughters
When my daughters were younger, there were many special memories that made my life as a single mom truly meaningful. Here, I’ll share some of my favorite moments from their childhood.
A Special Moment with Ally
Despite the challenges we faced, my younger daughter, Ally, surprised me one day during her grammar school years. She asked me to participate in a school project interview about heroes. The joy I felt was beyond words!
It was a tough time in my life as I worked hard to be a good single mom. There were moments when I felt overwhelmed and guilty for not being present enough. So, when my daughter saw me as her hero, it truly touched my heart. I still remember that day vividly—I jumped out of bed, so honored to be interviewed as her hero!
Morning Routines with Hannah
My daughter Hannah was just 9 years old at the time. Eager to spend time with me, she would wake up at dawn, jump on her bike, and keep me company during my morning jogs.
Picture my older daughter, all bundled up, riding right beside me with her bright bike lights shining. It was a beautiful display of love and togetherness during a time of change in my life as a single mom.
Those mornings meant more than just exercise; they were about bonding and being together. As the sun rose and painted our path in gold, it reflected the warmth and closeness we shared. One of my favorite pictures of Hannah is of her on her bike in front of the train station. It symbolizes her love for me, and I still treasure it every day.
Navigating Their Teenage Life as a Single Mom
As my girls entered high school, I noticed a change in our family life, which was especially challenging for me as a single mom.
One moment stands out vividly—a realization that hit me hard. My homemade potstickers, once a family favorite, were now replaced by frozen ones from their dad’s place or restaurants. It wasn’t just about the food; it felt like a part of me was being pushed aside, reflecting the changes in our family dynamics.
Seeing my daughters start to choose their own paths and look for new influences was difficult for me. I understood this was a natural part of growing up during their teenage years, but as a single mom, it brought a whirlwind of emotions. Their priorities shifted, and friends became a big focus in their lives, slowly taking center stage.
While this was a normal part of life, it sometimes felt like I was drifting away from their everyday lives. Therefore, adjusting to this change was particularly challenging as a single mom. It took a lot of understanding, patience, and a deeper acknowledgment of their need for independence and their desire to build their own social connections.
Reflections on My Life as a Single Mom
Fast-forward to today, my daughters are now 21 and 22, standing on the brink of adulthood and ready to take on the world.
While I know I may no longer hold the title of their hero, I take comfort in knowing that I’ve done my best as a single mom. It fills me with pride to see that, despite my imperfections, they have grown into strong and capable individuals. Their readiness to face life highlights both their resilience and the solid foundation we built together.
Now, as they reach out for my recipes or seek advice, it feels like I’ve reconnected with them—not just physically, but emotionally. This heartwarming bond reminds me that our connection transcends distance and time. It also restores a sense of closeness that means everything to me.
If you’d like to learn more about my experiences, be sure to check out my related posts on what it’s like to be a mom and on raising responsible, independent kids.
